well, is this mindless?
the other side of the coin...no line to cross. Insecurity and lack of trust...are the culprits. Possesiveness should not apply to those whom you love, or the need to control either.
Some have the mistaken idea that jealousy equates with love, it does not...being jealous, an emotion that we can all relate to, is a small and unenlightened form of want.
We 'want' someone to be...the way we 'want'. No need here, just a desire that will burn up and not last, over time. Trust is a giving as well as a receiving.